Amidst the global pandemic, children, their caregivers, their teachers and therapists are naturally experiencing heightened stress and anxiety. We are more likely to be sent into “fight, flight, freeze, mode” – the body and brain’s critical survival strategy to prepare and deal with perceived threat. For example, when you see a Grizzly Bear on your hiking trail, you instinctually run, fight back or hide.
However, we can become “stuck” or more sensitive to this instinctual urge, which is not adaptive and can negatively impact physical, emotional and social health. For example, chronic deployment of the “flight, flight, freeze” response occurs for individuals who experience post-traumatic stress disorder. Chronic deployment of “fight, flight, freeze” responses is also more likely amidst a global pandemic, such as COVID-19. Importantly, chronic deployment of “fight, flight, freeze” responses also occurs for individuals and communities who experience chronic racial injustice and oppression.
Under chronic experiences of stress and threat, our body remains activated and hyper-aroused, even when deploying this response is not helpful. For example, children may shut down or dysregulate when faced with even small stressors – making an error on a math worksheet or even accidentally spilling something on the table. Children and teens may be more irritable, defiant or isolative. Overall, chronic deployment of the “fight, flight, freeze” response heightens anxiety, stress and general feelings of malaise.
So, what can we do? What can we do to “turn off” or lessen this stress response? What are some ways to positively cope during these difficult times?
Research shows that the #1 resiliency factor is the reliable presence of at least one supportive relationship with an adult.
Build connection and community through shared activities and conversations about your experiences. Remember to always take care of yourself before taking care of others – self-care is critical.
Focus on validation first; problem-solving second.
Validating, acknowledging and accepting pain, distress, hurt and the like builds communication and naturally decreases tension and stress. Validation is the essential first step prior to action, problem-solving and positive coping.
In order to grow positive coping, it is helpful to build mastery and self-expression.
Strategies that can help to both organize and “release” feelings and stressful experiences rather than “bottle them up” include:
Use your body to heal your mind: play, do yoga, engage with nature, exercise;
Engage in shared action to promote communication and change at a community and systemic level.
Volunteer or advocate for a cause of importance. Contact your local legislators and express your concerns;
Write or draw about your experience.
Use collages, images or videos to express your goals, experiences and fears;
Engage in therapeutic movement.
Create a music playlist for various emotions. Dance or engage in rhythmic actions (e.g. knitting, pottery);
Identify your strengths and what you value in life.
Happiness is fleeting – goals and values last longer and support positive coping. For a free strengths and values survey, check out: https://www.viacharacter.org/;
Connect with community resources available in your area, such as therapists, mentors, religious organizations, support groups, local-nonprofits, etc.; and
Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion.