We live in a society where some parents are perhaps a bit too blasé about medicating their children. It is not uncommon in some primary schools to find a handful of children in each class, who are on some form of medication and most often these are concentration-enhancing drugs.
I am not going to discuss the merits of medicating all children; my focus is special needs and with special needs comes a whole gambit of medications, which are often necessary for many reasons other than purely concentration.
I am of the opinion that children of our generation are generally over-medicated, that is medicated too easily or when they do not really need it. I think parents do not always explore all avenues before resorting to medication. Medications are also necessary at times and I can only caution parents to make sure they are fully educated about these medications before entering the drug abyss.
I am both for and against medicating children. I know it is a bio-polar view, but medicating children is not always a clear-cut case. There are times when it proves beneficial and times when it may just be irresponsible to medicate and also times when it may be negligent to not medicate.
When we had to decide whether or not we would medicate our son it was an extremely difficult decision, which involved many decision trees and areas of vacillation. I can only hope our experiences help some parents who are going through this decision process themselves. And caution parents for whom it may not necessarily be the correct approach.
There are the clear-cut cases, where children have to be medicated; seizures, epilepsy, depression, psychosis and generally where a child may need medication to survive or lead any form of a quality life.
Then there are the cases that some special needs parents are faced with where medication is certainly beneficial but not necessarily essential and this is a journey of discovery and often of uncertainty.
There are of course the cases where a child probably does not need medication, but schooling and other societal pressures may lead to the parent believing their child will be best off medicated. These cases can sometimes rather be handled with diet change, behavioural therapy, a new methodology or approach to traditional therapies, an alternative parenting or even schooling approach, can often help children on this cusp.
Medicating children is a very emotional subject, especially as many of the medications contain brain-altering substances on a very basic level they normally change dopamine and serotonin levels in the brain. In truth why certain drugs work or what ends up being the concoction of drugs that do work for a specific brain is not yet a precise science. A game of trial and error is often the path to success and this success can also be short lived. It is ironically often the type of drugs that work for a child that will lead to a diagnosis of the child’s problems.
My son was battling at school; this is at a remedial school. Medication was suggested. Off we went to paediatric psychiatrist number one, child in tow. An “atypical antipsychotic” drug was recommended. We were reluctant; it just did not feel right. After serious deliberation we decided to spend a few months looking at alternative options. We went the natural route and saw minor improvements but nothing that made the major difference that was required for him to start coping at school.
I am happy I tried this route first, as when we did finally medicate we were certain we were doing the correct thing. I do have friends who have used diet changes and natural remedies and had great successes with these. I really think if a parent is unsure about medication or if medication is suggested but not essential, this is an important path to try. Diet changes and sensible alternative therapies have their place. Not all doctors agree on this approach and many scoff at the idea, however there is one thing I learn all the time with special needs, you never know unless you try. Some things work for some kids and not for others. Keep in mind some therapies can take up to 3 months to reveal successes, so it is a game of patience. Also it is best to only introduce one new intervention at a time.
Antipsychotic drugs are often recommended for children on the autistic spectrum especially children who are below the age of 5. This is because there are brands that are approved for children of this age. But autism is a condition that cannot be medicated. It is only the symptoms and co-morbid conditions that can be treated. These drugs are prescribed in children to help treat behaviours. The biggest issue I have is that psychologists prescribe the drugs based on school and parental feedback, and a limited time of interaction with the child. I think many diagnoses are made with foreclosure. Whilst I am not sure what the correct method of medication prescription should be followed, I think it is a flaw in the system of paediatric psychology. The child of 4 cannot explain what they feel or what happens in their body or mind. Parents and teachers are advocates for children but this is also not always an appropriate approach. For example, I think my assessment of my child’s behaviour is much worse than it actually is, because with me he is more difficult, whiny, anxious, clingy and moody than normal. I get tired of having to be brave and work so hard at parenting and see how his behaviour affects our family. But is strong medication for him really the correct approach? Perhaps I am the one who needs to be medicated to take the edge off of me? Then I can perhaps also handle the stress of special needs better. Perhaps medicating children needs to be more of a collaborative process with a psychologist involved. I am not sure what the answer is but I do believe that too many children are medicated and also medicated too easily or perhaps incorrectly.
My son is difficult but he does not have repetitive or stemming behaviours, he is not violent, he is not at danger of hurting himself or others, he is not disruptive in class, (he used to be and strict behavioural tools in class has helped him conform – not medication). I know many parents for whom antipsychotic drugs have been a lifesaver and for others who it has not helped and for others whom it was a disaster. Once again you cannot know unless you try. But also use your gut as a parent and get all the facts.
I was very scared to medicate my child let alone with antipsychotic meds. It was just not an option for us. We felt the behaviours our son had were manageable with therapies and maturity and there were other issues that were more important like his battling at school. Something else that really helped was a more independent view from an experienced person. My sons school principal told us she felt the medication recommended was not suitable for him, in her experience the medication suggested was typically used to treat other symptoms from those our son was displaying.
We decided to wait a few months and closer to his 5th birthday the school approached us again. His biggest problem was that he had so much potential but was not realising any of it and was battling to make sense of things at school from speech and language to developing muscles. Concentration was an issue and so were his autistic spectrum traits, such as not doing something if he did not want to or saw no reason to. Recently our son refused for months to do a puzzle at school for his new teacher. Puzzle building is an important basic skill for math and reading. After a few months I asked him; “boy why will you not do a puzzle for teacher?” His response “because I can.” How do you argue with that!
Our next debate; can you and should you medicate your child to reach their potential? I know many neuro-typical parents are faced with this. Is it fair to give a child drugs to help them be an A student instead of a C student?
I think the answer is potentially but is it worth it? Many parents do and this is why so many normal children are on concentration-enhancing drugs, to conform to the pressure to achieve. And as parents we all want our children to succeed.
For us a medication like Ritalin was not going to help our son achieve his full potential. Perhaps he never will. It is about helping him learn foundation skills. He was behind his normal peers and was falling behind in a remedial environment as well and for his abilities this was a real concern.
This was our starting point into the drug abyss. We started with Ritalin, which in itself is such a controversial drug. I know the feelings I had about antipsychotic meds may dredge up a whole similar experience for parents about Ritalin. For me this in the scheme of things was a manageable alternative. It has not been a miracle drug for us but our son has shown marked improvement and now does manage far better to learn and understand concepts. Why Ritalin works for him we are not sure. Generally Ritalin can compound autistic spectrum symptoms such as anxiety and over stimulation. This is the reason why medication is not a science; Ritalin does not work for many autistic spectrum children yet works for others. We are essentially treating our sons co-morbid ASD symptoms namely ADD. But his concentration is also affected by his lack of executive functioning, difficulty in motor planning and lack of shared attention, which cannot be medicated.
With medication come many side effects. Which is something every parent needs to be aware of. The use of medication can often lead to the requirement for another medication.
We take long breaks from Ritalin; doctors have differing views on this. After a long school holiday and returning to a new year of school, we had decided to try without Ritalin. It is good for parents to assess a child’s growth and see if medication is still necessary. These types of drugs are not something you want to keep your children on for prolonged periods if possible. In our case our son battled so much without the medication and a new school year with raised expectations that it lead to a little depression and a lot of anxiety. In fact as he became older we found his anxieties becoming more and more prominent. Back to medication options and research. We started our son on Ritalin again and also a mild anti-depressant to help manage his anxieties. The combination has been good. Our son’s bubbly and beautiful and even bullish personality had returned. I learnt not all medications make your child dopey or necessarily affect them in an undesirable way.
This for me is an interesting phenomenon about medication; often a fine concoction of small doses is required to achieve the optimal state or balance. It is a path of trial and error and patience and anxiety on the parent’s behalf. The psychiatrist did also advise us that a child’s moods can be severely affected and then mood-stabilizing drugs may be required as well. We were lucky we did not require this, which does not mean in the future we may not. This is why a good psychologist is paramount so they can explain all the issues to you upfront and you can know what to look out for.
This is why I call it the medication abyss – medicating your child can feel like a deep bottomless chasm. We have only been doing this for a short period of time and it feels like forever. There are so many medication options and brands out there that all can have a good or not so good effect. When medication is needed, finding the optimal balance and ideal option is daunting. Once you are on this path as a parent, it is continuous for a period of time and maybe even forever. You will have parents who will judge you for medicating your child and some who will judge you for not medicating your child. There are so many considerations before entering this arena.
A therapist working in a drug rehab facility recently quite vehemently berated me. Telling me how by medicating my child I was altering his mind and how this would cause him to become dependant on recreational drugs in the future. The argument is not so simplistic and I assure you, you will come across it often. There is the opposing argument that also holds true. If a child needs medication and is not medicated this can lead to many problems in lack of self-esteem and as they feel more and more out in society they may resort to recreational drugs. Neither argument though is as basic as that. There are so many other factors that come into play. How many drug addicts are there who have never had medication or needed medication? Recreational drug abuse and personality types and addiction or tolerance levels are not part of this argument and should not be part of the argument when deciding to medicate your child, although many may disagree.
As a parent you need to be aware of the fact that no medication situation is likely to remain stagnant. There will be constant tweaking, constant new symptoms, constant changes, body changes, and brain changes. What works now may not work in a year. And then a year later may work again. This really freaks me out and I really battle with this. We are for now comfortable yet sad about the fact that we need to medicate our son, but we do know how beneficial it is for him. Seeing your 5 year old depressed and sad and so different to the child you know is a scary wake up call.
Our path going forwards with medication is not nearly over. I know we will perhaps need a change in the future. I cannot say that one-day antipsychotic drugs will not be necessary for us. I can only hope my son will one-day have a future where medications are not necessary. We are always looking at alternative options and I believe that a combination of the two together is very effective.
I have compiled a consideration list for parents when it comes to medicating:
- Trust your gut – you know your child the best.
- Schools do tend to push medications, it makes children easier to handle and teach.
- Consider alternative options such as behaviour therapies, ABA therapy, diet changes, optimal mineral and vitamin load, food allergens etc.
- Understand all alternative therapies properly as some can be irresponsible.
- Find a doctor you like and trust and change as many times as you need to until you feel comfortable.
- Understand the side effects. As doctors can be flippant about side effects,
- Ask as many questions as you need to.
- Be careful of what you read on the Internet.
- Be prepared for a road of trial and error.
- Take your family into account.
- Find a trusted independent source that knows your child and can advise you objectively. It does not need to be one person.
The key lessons I have learnt in this arena are: Deciding to medicate your child is a very personal decision. Try not to let schools or society pressurise you into medicating your child. It is a road of trial and error. It can be for some a very emotionally charged decision process. Everybody has different circumstances, your child’s issues, your family needs and dynamics and tolerance levels. Trust your gut, be informed and if you think it is going to be the right option for your child, do not beat yourself up about the decision..